Is Casual Sex O.K.

If you choose to indulge in an uncommitted sexual relationship, you should be completely clear with the men you date that you are thoroughly uninterested in any kind of commitment. In other words, do not lead them on or take advantage of their feelings. For many people, both women and men, sex signals at least the potential for emotional involvement. So you need to stress that you don’t want any attachment. If he's on the same page, or even relieved he get to sleep with you, no strings attached, that’s cool. Otherwise, there might be the assumption for a potential future. So you please inform them that you are not seeking a future at all, but merely having fun playing the field, and that you consider sex with them enjoyable, but by no means want to have a relationship. Some people are not able to have sex without some emotional attachment. You might, for example, find that casual sex is empty and unsatisfying, and you might as well masturbate. There is certainly nothing wrong with that when it comes to satisfying sexual needs. Or you might find yourself developing stronger feelings than you thought, but you have a situation that is purely short-term. So be honest with yourself about whether this is really the situation for you. Some women find that separating their feelings from the act will protect them in the long run. But finds it harder to re-attached themselves if the relationship unexpectedly progress. She may also have the urge to connect emotionally but unable to find the sexual connection.

If you find that you are in fact looking for something deeper, or it presents itself unexpectedly, I urge you to be open to that.